Heartache is more painful than physical pain. There is nothing that stings so terribly like a broken heart. This has been pretty much agreed upon since ages. And while the feelings that we feel said major let down might make you want to crawl into the dark while sobbing and weeping. Believe it or not, there are positive ways to cope with a broken heart.
“Heartache is not just experienced in relationships”
We can feel loss and pain when we lose a close friend when we feel rejected or may be ignored by a colleague or someone we respect or look up to.
When we imagine a relationship or friendship resulting in the future and it ends or changes drastically, we feel blindsided and betrayed.
The intensity and duration of the heartache are so hard to predict and dependent upon our personality, coping skills, and emotional support systems.
1. Acknowledge your pain
Sometimes when you are hurting, you think the easiest thing to do is just move forward and try to ignore what you are feeling. But acknowledge the pain, do not ignore it.
We try to distract ourselves but the best way to reduce the intensity of negative emotions is to recognize that it is there and call it by its name. When you try to acknowledge that you are in pain, you have given yourself the chance to deal with it and process it.
2. Do not Isolate yourself From Others
You might want to shut yourself for a while so as not to have to see others or explain your current situation. Do not isolate yourself.
It is normal to want space to be alone but we heal quickly when we are brave enough to let someone.
You do not have to be embarrassed by having strong feelings. Going through a tough time is something every human goes through, and those close to you will help.
3. Be Present and Practice Mindfulness.
Replaying what happened over and over again, and thinking about what could have been different, is totally normal. But try to be present with where you are right now and think about what can you do in future.
One of the stages of grief is imagining about ‘What ifs’. Maybe we can work it out! What if I had said something else? Overthinking takes us out of the present moment and takes our brain to the past, which indeed causes more pain.
Practicing mindfulness will avoid you from overthinking about the past.
4. Keep yourself busy in your life
Have you ever experienced breaking up with someone or ending a friendship, and feeling like you no longer know what to do with yourself and feel like you are left in the dark?
Make a list of activities or hobbies that give you purpose or fulfilment. We can stop our passions from being lost.
If this happened to you in a relationship, rediscover who you are and what kind of life you want to make for yourself.
Get involved with people and activities where you are surrounded by people who are likeminded.
5. Imagine about a positive future.
This might feel really challenging, especially if it is feeling low to do anything but think about what went wrong.
Imagine your future and keep yourself busy in building it. This is the toughest to do right after heartbreak as our minds prepare us for being alone, being without a close friend, or never finding another connection that matched the one we lost.
Know that is not true. While the feelings of heartbreak might be difficult to overcome, you are not going to feel it forever.
6. Identify what caused you pain.
While you want to move on, it is also important to take time to recognize what went wrong in your relationship. This can help to give you the insight to move on and not repeat negative patterns over and over again.
Know what you are willing to do and what you are unwilling to do in your next friendship or relationship by taking time to consider your wishes and wants before getting attached to someone or investing your emotional currency.
8. Be kind to yourself
It is important to be very kind to yourself as you feel heartbroken and the rollercoaster of emotions that you feel.
Take care of your body and feelings so that you know when you are feeling lonely, heartbroken, or helpless, and embrace yourself with deep love and understanding. Just be with the feelings with deep acceptance of them for some time.
Pamper yourself by doing skincare and exercising which can surely make a huge difference and make you feel good.
9. Let it go
When you forgive someone or also yourself for causing some situation or heartache, you are free from all the negativity and pain. Forgiving and forgetting is the best remedy for yourself and the best revenge for the person that caused you heartache. A person who caused you heartache is not worth being remembered, so concentrate on yourself and achieve your goals.
HEARTACHE
HEARTACHE: MORE PAINFUL THAN PHYSICAL PAIN
FEELS LIKE SOMEONE IS SQUEEZING YOUR HEART.
Heartache is more painful than physical pain. There is nothing that stings so terribly like a broken heart. This has been pretty much agreed upon since ages. And while the feelings that we feel said major let down might make you want to crawl into the dark while sobbing and weeping. Believe it or not, there are positive ways to cope with a broken heart.
“Heartache is not just experienced in relationships”
We can feel loss and pain when we lose a close friend when we feel rejected or may be ignored by a colleague or someone we respect or look up to.
When we imagine a relationship or friendship resulting in the future and it ends or changes drastically, we feel blindsided and betrayed.
The intensity and duration of the heartache are so hard to predict and dependent upon our personality, coping skills, and emotional support systems.
1. Acknowledge your pain
Sometimes when you are hurting, you think the easiest thing to do is just move forward and try to ignore what you are feeling. But acknowledge the pain, do not ignore it.
We try to distract ourselves but the best way to reduce the intensity of negative emotions is to recognize that it is there and call it by its name. When you try to acknowledge that you are in pain, you have given yourself the chance to deal with it and process it.
2. Do not Isolate yourself From Others
You might want to shut yourself for a while so as not to have to see others or explain your current situation. Do not isolate yourself.
It is normal to want space to be alone but we heal quickly when we are brave enough to let someone.
You do not have to be embarrassed by having strong feelings. Going through a tough time is something every human goes through, and those close to you will help.
3. Be Present and Practice Mindfulness.
Replaying what happened over and over again, and thinking about what could have been different, is totally normal. But try to be present with where you are right now and think about what can you do in future.
One of the stages of grief is imagining about ‘What ifs’. Maybe we can work it out! What if I had said something else? Overthinking takes us out of the present moment and takes our brain to the past, which indeed causes more pain.
Practicing mindfulness will avoid you from overthinking about the past.
4. Keep yourself busy in your life
Have you ever experienced breaking up with someone or ending a friendship, and feeling like you no longer know what to do with yourself and feel like you are left in the dark?
Make a list of activities or hobbies that give you purpose or fulfilment. We can stop our passions from being lost.
If this happened to you in a relationship, rediscover who you are and what kind of life you want to make for yourself.
Get involved with people and activities where you are surrounded by people who are likeminded.
5. Imagine about a positive future.
This might feel really challenging, especially if it is feeling low to do anything but think about what went wrong.
Imagine your future and keep yourself busy in building it. This is the toughest to do right after heartbreak as our minds prepare us for being alone, being without a close friend, or never finding another connection that matched the one we lost.
Know that is not true. While the feelings of heartbreak might be difficult to overcome, you are not going to feel it forever.
6. Identify what caused you pain.
While you want to move on, it is also important to take time to recognize what went wrong in your relationship. This can help to give you the insight to move on and not repeat negative patterns over and over again.
Know what you are willing to do and what you are unwilling to do in your next friendship or relationship by taking time to consider your wishes and wants before getting attached to someone or investing your emotional currency.
8. Be kind to yourself
It is important to be very kind to yourself as you feel heartbroken and the rollercoaster of emotions that you feel.
Take care of your body and feelings so that you know when you are feeling lonely, heartbroken, or helpless, and embrace yourself with deep love and understanding. Just be with the feelings with deep acceptance of them for some time.
When you love yourself and embrace yourself, you will avoid negative feelings and you can feel better.
Pamper yourself by doing skincare and exercising which can surely make a huge difference and make you feel good.
9. Let it go
When you forgive someone or also yourself for causing some situation or heartache, you are free from all the negativity and pain. Forgiving and forgetting is the best remedy for yourself and the best revenge for the person that caused you heartache. A person who caused you heartache is not worth being remembered, so concentrate on yourself and achieve your goals.
FIND PEACE WITHIN YOURSELF.
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