WHAT IS EMOTIONAL MATURITY???
Emotional maturity is when a person knows to manage their emotions irrespective of the circumstances, they are in. Psychological construct indicates how well we can cope with unexpected especially unpleasant events that trigger emotional discomfort and throw us off the track. It is called EMOTIONAL MATURITY. And unlike your personality or temperament, it is something that you develop in time and with consistent effort.
Emotional maturity is the process where you learn to successfully navigate your complete emotional spectrum, and take responsibility for how you feel in general. So, it also includes mental flexibility. For a person who is emotionally mature, a failed business or a relationship that has come to an end is part of their life journey and not the end of the world.
SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY
Signs of an emotionally immature person are
- Quickly gets defensive
- Cannot have a deep conversation
- Do not take accountability for anything and blame people
- Tend to overreact to things and get angry easily
- Have a big ego
Common excuses emotionally immature people may give to justify their attitude
- It is not my problem, mistake, or responsibility!
- This is not fair. Why did this happen to me?
- I cannot stand it!
SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL MATURITY
A person who is emotionally mature
- Does not hold grudges
- Looks beyond the first impression
- Does not look for perfection
- Acknowledges their flaws and accepts them
- Has a realistic perspective on love and relationships
- Nurtures their inner child
- Live a life that is value-driven
- Is an empathetic person
- Appreciates little things in life and is grateful
- Knows that happiness is a lifelong process
STEPS FOR MORE EMOTIONAL MATURITY
- Accept that you are not perfect and always keep growing. You cannot become emotionally mature if you think you do not have things to work on. Do not blame anyone for anything that happens to you.
- You should have awareness and acceptance of your past. No one wants to admit that they had a toxic environment or were following toxic patterns. But the more honest you are about your past events, the more easily you may solve your problems.
- Understand and name your emotions. Are you sad, upset, scared, jealous, angry, mad, happy, excited, etc.? Track down your emotions in your journal.
- Know what are your triggers! Most of your reactions come automatically, they are a reflex. You are most emotionally distraught when you are ignored, criticized, or not heard.
- Know how to align your mind, heart, and body. When you are triggered by anything, take deep breaths. And try to regulate your nervous system.
